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    Why I’m Not Worried About What My Kids ‘Need’ to Know
    By Shelly Sangrey

    Our society today is obsessed with timelines and milestones. Everywhere you turn, there are checklists, pamphlets, books, and charts telling you what your children “should” be doing by a certain age. It’s enough to make any parent neurotic.

    What is “normal” for one child may not be for another, and that is as it should be.

    Oh no! My baby is 8-months-old and not crawling yet. What should I do??

    This chart says that 3-year-olds should be able to hop on one foot. My 3-year-old can’t do that. Should I call the doctor?!

    My 18-month-old can’t draw circles! What could be wrong??

    As if that weren’t bad enough, we’ve got the schools stepping in with their timelines and arbitrary expectations.

    Your son is in 1st grade and is still having difficulty reading. He may have to be held back.

    Your daughter fidgets an awful lot. Maybe you should have her checked for ADHD.

    In 2nd grade, we expect children to have completely legible printing. This just won’t do.

    You would think that homeschooling would offer a welcome reprieve from all of this unnecessary pressure, but it doesn’t always happen that way. Since we’ve been brought up to believe that school is the “only way,” a substantial number of homeschoolers and authors of educational books treat children exactly like schools do—as nothing but cookie cutter images of one another.

    Children are unique individuals who grow at their own rate and learn and develop at their own pace.

    The thing is, that’s not what children are! They are unique individuals who grow at their own rate and learn and develop at their own pace. What is “normal” for one child may not be for another, and that is as it should be.

    While books like these may be a good resource for getting ideas, all too often what happens is they start being treated like Bibles instead of tools.

    So why am I not worried about what my kids “need” to know?
    Because the authors of these books and creators of these charts don’t know my children. I do. They don’t know their strengths, weaknesses, and insecurities. I do. They don’t know their interests and learning styles. That would be me, too. 

    The fact is, the best people to determine what your children should learn are you and them. That’s it. No fancy books. No milestone charts. And no arbitrary educational guidelines.

    Take advantage of your homeschool freedom and let your children grow as they need, develop as they need, and learn as they need. If you ask me, that’s a pretty simple recipe for an uplifting homeschool.

    But it works. And that’s what matters the most.

    Shelly Sangrey
    Shelly Sangreyhttps://redheadmom8.wordpress.com
    I’m Shelly Sangrey, a Christ-following, homeschooling mom of 11 and wife to my ever-patient husband, Shawn. After spending years trying to discover the Lord’s will for me, I finally realized that I could use my spiritual gift of encouragement to lift up other mothers who have taken this rewarding, yet sometimes tiring, journey of homeschooling. When I’m not busy chasing kids, homeschooling, drinking coffee, or devouring books at the library, you can find me at my blog, There’s No Place Like Home, or on my YouTube channel of the same name, at https://www.youtube.com/user/redheadmom8

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